It does happen sometimes in our life too...

Trust

What makes two people from entire different back ground make a decision to spend their life togethere???
Ok.. its a indian tradition..
Ok.. Your parents wanted to be that way..
Ok.. You didnt want to heart your paretns feeling..
Ok.. Your parents have better understanding of finding a match for you..
Ok.. it has worked for your parents and it will work for you too..
Ok..ok.. ok...

There are so many reason we can find. Different people will have their own reason.
Next question comes what will make that realtion to start and sustain????

Only thing that comes to my mind is the trust. Totally.. Unconditionally...

Some would disagree and say that its love.. But then it is the thing that can only be experienced and felt and cannot be expressed. And it composed of so many factors.A mathematical equation can be formed with love as a dependent variable and trust,caring,etc as independent variables.But for the relationship to begin and suatain the foundation has to be trust nad only trust.

Ahmedabad

My work takes me to places where normally I would never visit those places. Different places means different people with different attitude and different views on the same subject.

I was in Ahmedabad recently. I was interacting with the mangerial level person. The persons involved were all engineers of differrent branches and were working in the company for quite some time now. As it happened one day, our converstion led to the riots in Ahmedabad in 2002. As soon as this conversation started, one person from the group declared that he is the ardent follower of Mr.Modi. Other agreed to his comment. He said in a way to tell me that dare I speak anything against Mr.Modi.He told that it was right what happened in Gujrat. That was the normal couse of action after what happened in Godhra. He went ahead to add that how minority group have a plan by which they kind of try to capture the city. And by destroying their properties they haven been taught a lesson and they are sent 10 years back in time.I was amazed by the way he narrated me all this and other supported him. I was wondering that I am talking to some very educated people and people of great respect in the company. If these people are having this views what about the common people in the city.And what made the venom to spread so dip in the mind of the people?????It surely is the bad time to be in the minority group and placed in such city....

Love or something like that

One of My friend told me since I have written quite a few thing about the four letter word,why I dont write about another four letter word i.e Love. I tell her, to write something about this complicated issue, you should have at least experienced it. Or should have gone through the process. She tells me that whose write about the crime, do they actually committ those. Huummm.. Her way of reasoning is immpecalble.So,I am here in the balcony and a notepad writing on this topic.
Times have surely changed. Earlier the people use to write their thoughts with the pen and a book in front of them.Huummm... Thanks to the Microsoft We have word and notepad.
Now back to the main topic..
There is someone on the front door. I go and open the door. Its the house maid. My neighbour walks in front of our main door. She is really something. Hot southern spice. I wait a little longer near the door, until she takes the lift down.
Main topic......
Today the weather is really good. Its really nice slow breeze blowing around. Vizag has a much better and salubrious climate than Poona.. I think I should plan to go the beach this evening...
Aahhh...
Return return....
But this evening we are planning to go Kailashgiri. Its a near by hill top area with a panaromic view of whole Vizag. Yup, thats the final plan.
Uuff.. I have to write something about this topic. Lets not digress to some other topic..Too complicated a issue to write... Why dont I copy some of the forward messages I have and tell my dear friend that I wrote it. But the problem with the forwards is that its not only you who receive them.
Huummm...
Is love something that is displayed in our Hindi Cinema, where the hero comes out with the perfect line. And he is present at the right place and the right moment. So, when the two person meets, there is music at the back ground. I guess, thats far fetched from the reality..

I think love is the willing ness to accomodate the other person in your life. (This is the good one [:)]...). Like we accomodate our parents,siblings and dear friends. Its the willingness by a person to let the other person be a part of his or her life...Most of the problems strat or end depending upon how the individual accomodate the other person in their life. And to use a chemical engineering slang term, if the bonding doesnt take place properly, it will break when a little outside pressure or heat is applied.Thus, when this bonding is pushed through the outside characteristics like the beauty of an individual or wealthiness of an individual, it will not withstand the force of the time. It will be so fragile that it will break when a little pressure is applied.I think this is true for any realtionship.

And from where does the perfect line comes from?? From where does the perfect situation comes from??? It doesnt come in the real life. I think the presence of the other person makes the words or situation perfect. Even when you say something in a clumsy way and in the crowded bus, its the presence of the other person who makes the situation and the line perfect.

Coming up.....

All my previous blogs were written in the mood or in the situation I was at that moment. But the next two blogs, I am writing from last one week. I have named them as
1. Dinner
2. Love or something like that..

It will be interesting for me too to know what shape they take..

For those who happen to read this blog and happen to be interested in those subject, look out for this space...

Dibert of the day

Why????

Why do people behave so differntly in different group of people and in different situation?? Why their behaviour become so erratic, so that it becomes difficult to predict what they are going to say or how they are going to behave in that situation. Complexity increases when they behave differntly in the same situation at two differnt times...
Obviously, they are in differnt moods. But does that make them to behave so erratically, so drastically different????
The next question comes how to respond to such type of person?? And will not that respond take the form of altercation and finally becomes an ego problem?? And will not all the previous issues which were deeply buried will get surfaced at this altercation?? And what about the realtionship between the two person involved??? I cant say about all the previous questions but for the last one, it will depend upon how big are the egoes of the persons involved. Settling of the dust will be directly proportional to the egoes of the person involved..
But then wont keeping mum will avoid all the above turmoil??? Wont that will save your whole day or weeks altogether..
Huummmm....
But then wont you will be taken for granted??? Wont the other person belive that you are the weaker side????
I dont know how Gandhiji used silence to his advantage.
Huuummmm...

Thought of the day

Positive photos are developed from negatives in a dark room. So if you find yourself lonely and in the dark, understand that GOD is working on a beautiful picture!

What a Shame???

Circa April--A few hunderd students protesting near Azad Maiden in mumbai are beaten ruthlessly. Tear gas and fire water is thrown on the peaceful protest rally in Delhi.Circa July--Some thing happens to a statue which till now was dilapidating in shivaji park in mumbai and the whole mumbai is brought to ransom by Shiv Sena..
In the first case the cause is reservation. Nehruji envisaged the importance of education and build IITs whom he called as temple of education. After 58 years and the pain of innumberable students and professors we have a brand name as IIT. This is power of Vision of one person before 58 years. Now we have a politician who for the sake of harnessing the votes of certain section of people is going to destroy all that has achieved in last 58 years. What a vision and petty politics???Innumberable students goes on hunger strikes. Many hospitals are closed in protest. Nothing happens after weeks of protest.
In the second case, a statue which nobody thought existed is suddenly brought to limelight. Issue was tha it was desecrated.Ok.. But was it a statue of a freedom fighter? No.. Was it a statue of any diety belonging to a particular religion? No.. Whos statue it was?? It was a statue of the wife of a famous politician in maharashtra.. What happens next???Buses are torched, trains are blocked, government property is ransacked, bandhs are called in different parts of maharashtra.
Its very sad that we Indians waste our energy on such pitty issues. That very well explains why a country of more than 1 billion cant win one gold medal in olympics, cant have 12 good foot ball players. Whats more humilation when Sania goes in 2 second round of wimbeldon and the whole nation reacts in a way that she has won wimbeldon.
It has to be again vision of one person. And we have to wait again for 58 years till we have our brand in tennis or foot ball or for that matter any other sport..
But even after that it will be vision of one person who will think of reservation in that field too....

A typical Dilbert reply in a very typical dilbert situation.

Uncertanity

I was thinking about this word for quite some days now. And I have heard 'Life mein thodi clarity hone chahiye' twice in last one week.But, I guess clarity comes only when one know what he wants from every situation. There is puprpose for every activity we do. Only its pupose should be clear. But thats the most difficult thing to know. Most of the time, at most of the places that purpose or clarity doesnt exists. But then the obvious second question comes that do one need the kind of clarity that we are talking here. DOesnt that uncertanity gives the suprises, the thrill in life??? I think thats what they call it as "Life".

Evening Rain

This weekend began a little early for us. I and some of my office colleagues decided to go and watch Krish. It was a bold decision on our part to watch the movie. But we decided it would be better than getting bored in the office. Movie started half hour late and to our surprise
it was a full three hour drama. It was pouring heavily ( same as the west indies were making runs at some other part of the globe)as we came out of the cinema hall. It was really bad scene as we were travelling by bus. It was just first day of the heavy rain and already the road was flooded with water. All the Pune muncipal corporation claim for the preparation of monsoon went for a toss. Its only in these time, one can understand how bad the drainage system is in the city. This whole thing raised a very fundamental question in my mind... Why people dont do what they are supposed to do??? It would be a real progress for India when the people in the position just do what they are supposed to do. Is these a ideal scenario that I am talking. Is it
that difficult for the people to do their own work for which they are paid for???
This reminds me of some of the incidents of my previous company. I very vividly remember sombody telling me why many of the people dont work. Because if they work they will have to take resposibility of that work. And my short stay in that company made me realise how big is
the word "Responsibility".
But then wont the life will be a whole meainingless affair, if we dont take responsibility for our own action, for the things that we do???
I was brought back to the world by the conductor of the bus telling that my stop has come.I made a dash out of the bus. I had another bus to catch to my native place.

A nice read

A really nice article that I had come across. And since I think of any topic to write.. Here s that article for the day...

A carrot, an egg and a cup of coffee...
You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.
It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water
And placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil.
In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the
Carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.
The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.
The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity ... boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter.
"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?
How do you handle adversity?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG OR A COFFEE BEAN?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything
They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying

God

A real good read


The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for GOD to rescue him, but every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect himself from the elements, and to store his few possessions. One day, after scavenging for food he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, with smoke rolling up to the sky. The worst had happened, and everything was lost. He was stunned with disbelief, grief, and anger. "GOD, how could you do this to me?" he cried. Early the next day he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the island. It had come to rescue him. "How did you know I was here?" Asked the weary man of his rescuers. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied. It's easy to get discouraged when things are going bad, but we shouldn't lose heart, because GOD is at work in our lives, even in the midst of pain, and suffering.Remember that .. . . . . . . . . The next time your little hut seems to be burning to the ground, it just may be a smoke signal that summons the grace of GOD.

Fear

Fear...
Let me write something on another four letter word.. Fear...It can be of different kinds.. Like some might have a fear for darkness, fear for
heights,fear for failure,etc.I will talk on fear for failure.
I think anybody who has tested a little success in his life suffers from this syndrome. He expects his other activity or other events to be successful.
And he chooses the attitude and the way in which he got his first success..A classsic example will be getting scuccess in HSSC. Student will try and emulate all the tactics that he used to get success in HSSC in the higher field of education in chooses.I think thats where the things start going wrong. As they say, " Success is a lousy teacher ". And indeed it turns out to be true. Every new situation demands new set of skill and new set of attitude to deal with.. But we always choose the path by which we got the success... And that what result in the down fall of an individual and organisations. A very good example of that is IBM.When Bill Gates was still to happen and people were working on developing OS. IBM refused to enter that market. It thought that the future lied in the hardware and not the software. Bill gates took that
opportunity and the rest is the history. Why IBM refused??? It belived in its past success of its the hardware market.

Fear for failure arises when we expect certain things to happen in a certain way.. If they dont turn out to be that way we term that the excerise was a failure..I will talk more of a failure of a planning in life..We plan that at certain point of time we would like ceratin things.. We would like to be in a certain positin. If it happens well and good.. What if it doesnt happen.. What if things doesnt turn out in the way that you wanted to be them.. We have analysed reason why things might have gone wrong in the first place.Now lets talk on if 'they went wrong then
what'..
To start with its a really terrible feeling to be in. You feel the world is against him. Even a reply " I will talk with you later " from a good friend creates thousand questions in the mind.. In short you tend to be a little cynical. The so called "Faith" in yourself,friends, and even God gets shaken.. I think thats where the character of the person
gets tested.. A strong character will get sailed through it. " Tough time never last but tough people do".
One who is able to get the things in his stride and move forwards will definitely make a difference in his and other person lives.

Life Part I

Thank god, this site is not yet blocked by my company.. Every other day we find that the site which we were able to open the other day is now blocked. And with a funny reason giving to it.Anyways will write about it some other day...I think when u have nothing to do or nothing to lose u become or talk like a philosopher. I fall into the previous category...

Lately, I am lot into thinking about a four letter word called life...What i feel about it is: I think you should decide one or two things that u want to accomplish in life..Let them be more of realistic..Say, it might be a billion indian ruppees at the age of 40, or Merc E class.. It need not be always materilistic.. It could be like running the bussiness after a certain age.. But, the thing that you decide should have two qualities: first, it should be quantifialbe and second it should be not be an absurd target. It should be reasonable. It can be an optimistic , but should be reasonable one...Now,the hard work is over...Rest carry on doing what u are doing.. ( like i am writing this blog in office hours )Dont plan for a very distant future..Let ur plans be short..Let those plans be for an immediate hour or for a day..Thats it..i think planning ur life in advance for years together creates an additional pressure and takes out the fun in what u have in hand... NOW....
Anyways will continue it in my next blog...Have to go back to work now...
Manoj